Why Do You Want to Make Love?

When you want to make love, why do you want to? The answer may seem obvious, but there are many reasons for wanting to have sex other than feeling sexual.

Following are some of the reasons for wanting to have sex:

• Feeling insecure and wanting to feel loved or validated through sex
• Hoping that by having sex the other person will like you or love you – having sex as a form of control over the other person's feelings for you
• Feeling sexual desire and wanting another person to take care of it for you
• Hoping that having sex will release stress • Hoping that having sex will put you to sleep
• To have a sense of power and control over someone
• To avoid facing feelings of loneliness and aloneness, or other painful feelings
• To get held and get the affection that you want
• Feeling filled with love and wanting to express it physically to the person you love.

Other than the last reason, all the others are from the wounded self. The wounded self in many people has learned to use sex addictively – to get love, avoid pain, and feel safe. This can create many problems in relationships and in society in general. A person acting from his or her wounded self who wants power and control may sexually abuse both children and adults. A person in a relationship operating from the wounded self, who has learned to use sex as a form of validation may be sexually demanding to the point that his or her partner feels used, controlled and invaded.

The partner at the other end of an insecure and sexually demanding partner often finds himself or herself completely turned off sexually in the relationship. I have often worked with women who have sex with a man, not because she feels great desire, but in the hopes of getting him to love her and stay in the relationship.

Invariably, this backfires and she ends up feeling betrayed. Yet she has betrayed herself by using sex as a form of control. Many people in relationships believe that the other person is responsible for his or her feelings, including taking care of sexual feelings. If you believe that it is your partner's "duty" to take care of your sexual needs, this can create a problem in relationships. Sex that comes from duty rather than love is not satisfying. When one partner complies and performs his or her "duty", the relationship may gradually erode to the point of falling apart.

No one likes to feel used, especially sexually, so it is never advisable to have sex out of duty or to expect your partner to have sex out of duty. Some people have a deep need to be held, a need for mothering. Sometimes people sexualize this need and have sex in an effort to meet this need. This never works, as the inner child needs mothering, NOT sex. In fact, the inner child may feel violated when the wounded adult uses sex to get affection.

Sex may temporarily take away feelings of stress, anxiety, loneliness, and aloneness, but it is very temporary. Just as the inner child will not feel loved if you used food, drugs or alcohol to avoid responsibility for your feelings, neither will your child feel loved when you use sex addictively.

Healthy sexuality comes from love and intimacy between two people.

People who love each other do not want the other person to have sex when it is not what he or she wants to do. People who are taking responsibility for their own feelings have sex for the joy and pleasure of expressing their love for each other.
If sex is a problem in your relationship, you might want to take a look at your intent – at why you want to have sex, or why your partner wants to have sex.

Beyond 2012 ,the World End

Question (Q): Are there any threats to the Earth in 2012? Many Internet websites say the world will end in December 2012.

Answer (A):The world will not end in 2012. Our planet has been getting along just fine for more than 4 billion years, and credible scientists worldwide know of no threat associated with 2012.

Q: What is the origin of the prediction that the world will end in 2012?

A: The story started with claims that Nibiru, a supposed planet discovered by the Sumerians, is headed toward Earth. This catastrophe was initially predicted for May 2003, but when nothing happened the doomsday date was moved forward to December 2012 and linked to the end of one of the cycles in the ancient Mayan calendar at the winter solstice in 2012 -- hence the predicted doomsday date of December 21, 2012.

Q: Does the Mayan calendar end in December 2012?

A: Just as the calendar you have on your kitchen wall does not cease to exist after December 31, the Mayan calendar does not cease to exist on December 21, 2012. This date is the end of the Mayan long-count period but then -- just as your calendar begins again on January 1 -- another long-count period begins for the Mayan calendar.

Q: Could planets align in a way that impacts Earth?

A: There are no planetary alignments in the next few decades and even if these alignments were to occur, their effects on the Earth would be negligible. One major alignment occurred in 1962, for example, and two others happened during 1982 and 2000. Each December the Earth and sun align with the approximate center of the Milky Way Galaxy but that is an annual event of no consequence.
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"There apparently is a great deal of interest in celestial bodies, and their locations and trajectories at the end of the calendar year 2012. Now, I for one love a good book or movie as much as the next guy. But the stuff flying around through cyberspace, TV and the movies is not based on science. There is even a fake NASA news release out there..."
- Don Yeomans, NASA senior research scientist
Q: Is there a planet or brown dwarf called Nibiru or Planet X or Eris that is approaching the Earth and threatening our planet with widespread destruction?

A: Nibiru and other stories about wayward planets are an Internet hoax. There is no factual basis for these claims. If Nibiru or Planet X were real and headed for an encounter with the Earth in 2012, astronomers would have been tracking it for at least the past decade, and it would be visible by now to the naked eye. Obviously, it does not exist. Eris is real, but it is a dwarf planet similar to Pluto that will remain in the outer solar system; the closest it can come to Earth is about 4 billion miles.

Q: What is the polar shift theory? Is it true that the Earth's crust does a 180-degree rotation around the core in a matter of days if not hours?

A: A reversal in the rotation of Earth is impossible. There are slow movements of the continents (for example Antarctica was near the equator hundreds of millions of years ago), but that is irrelevant to claims of reversal of the rotational poles. However, many of the disaster websites pull a bait-and-switch to fool people. They claim a relationship between the rotation and the magnetic polarity of Earth, which does change irregularly, with a magnetic reversal taking place every 400,000 years on average. As far as we know, such a magnetic reversal doesn’t cause any harm to life on Earth. Scientists believe a magnetic reversal is very unlikely to happen in the next few millennia.
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Q: Is the Earth in danger of being hit by a meteor in 2012?

A: The Earth has always been subject to impacts by comets and asteroids, although big hits are very rare. The last big impact was 65 million years ago, and that led to the extinction of the dinosaurs. Today NASA astronomers are carrying out a survey called the Spaceguard Survey to find any large near-Earth asteroids long before they hit. We have already determined that there are no threatening asteroids as large as the one that killed the dinosaurs. All this work is done openly with the discoveries posted every day on the NASA Near-Earth Object Program Office website, so you can see for yourself that nothing is predicted to hit in 2012.

Q: How do NASA scientists feel about claims of the world ending in 2012?

A: For any claims of disaster or dramatic changes in 2012, where is the science? Where is the evidence? There is none, and for all the fictional assertions, whether they are made in books, movies, documentaries or over the Internet, we cannot change that simple fact. There is no credible evidence for any of the assertions made in support of unusual events taking place in December 2012.
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Q: Is there a danger from giant solar storms predicted for 2012? A: Solar activity has a regular cycle, with peaks approximately every 11 years. Near these activity peaks, solar flares can cause some interruption of satellite communications, although engineers are learning how to build electronics that are protected against most solar storms. But there is no special risk associated with 2012. The next solar maximum will occur in the 2012-2014 time frame and is predicted to be an average solar cycle, no different than previous cycles throughout history.
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Hatha Yoga

Hatha yoga belongs to India’s ancient cultural heritage. Yoga in Sanskrit means ‘to unite.’ Thus Yoga is an exercise that enhances physical and psychological well being. Hatha Yoga promotes good health (Arogya), contributes to longevity (Chiraya) and the total intrinsic discipline culminates into positive and perennial happiness and peace. It is has since time immemorial proven that Yoga is indispensable to the ultimate accomplishments in life. Hatha Yoga is a deep rooted subject. It is a philosophy and it is an art.  It is a science that affects not only the conscious self but the subconscious as well. The main philosophy of Yoga is simple – that mind, body and spirit are all one and cannot be clearly separated. Yet there is a multitude of philosophical ideas developed by looking into the deeper dimensions of the body, mind and spirit. The early writings on Yoga were transcribed fragile palm leaves that were easily damaged, destroyed or lost. The development of Yoga can be traced back to over 5000 years. Yoga is ancient, it is a sacred art which has proved to develop both the human mind and body. Qualities as sincerity, honesty, straightforwardness, cheerfulness, courage, patience, endurance, perseverance, calm, serenity, self control, self mastery, truth, harmony and liberty are all strengthened and markedly enhanced with the practice of Hatha Yoga. Thus Hatha Yoga completes a being. It nourishes the body and the mind.

The benefits of Hatha Yoga

Yoga means unity. It means connecting with the universe. It enables one’s mental and physical self to tune up and draw strength from the universe. “Hatha yoga is for the mind and the body and it is for all. Hatha Yoga slows down ageing and adds a radiance,’ says guru Nanda Siriwardene. “The mind is the secret of physical strength and well being and Yoga helps to strengthen and protect the mind,’ says Guru Nanda Siriwardene. Our modern day lifestyles have given us many ailments and Yoga is the answer for all these ills. Yoga has proven to be beneficial in back pains, spine problems and arthritis and conditions caused by stress. “Yoga soothes one’s being and there is no doubt that Yoga arrests ageing,” says Siriwardene.

Hatha Yoga and illness

According to Guru Nanda Siriwardene, the only way out of the illnesses of these modern times is to keep moving. “With the ancient techniques of Hatha Yoga there is a guarantee – a guarantee that your fat will burn, that your pancreas will be saved an d your heart will continue to beat at the rhythm it is used to. With equipment  to assist the elderly and the disabled to attain the Isthira or perfect Asana, Guru Nanda Siriwardene says that Hatha Yoga is not only for the healthy but for the ailing too. Yoga is not only to burn fat, it is a proven way of warding of disease. WE ought to practice Yoga to make our asanas perfect. Wrong postures and imperfect alignment will not bring any benefits. “In Sanskrit, it is called Isthira. We ought to align our body. An Isthira body will not fall. Achala means not to shake, is also important. Hence if our body is Isthira and Achala, then our asans will be suka or comfortable. ‘Today to attain all this I have equipment which are exact replicas of the ancient equipment ogf yogis. WE use ropes and these equipment are made from wood and iron to perfect the asans.Thus there is no struggle, no difficulty. It is the only way to achieve good health,” says Guru Nanda Siriwardene. He goes on to say that this is the only way to practice Yoga properly. It will enhance the four factors in our body. In yoga we have our physical body which consists of skin, flesh and bones. Then we have our fine body which consists of organs, glands and nerves. These are a very essential part of our body. Next is the psychological body which consists of our thinking power and our power of concentration and fourthly we have the spiritual body which we cannot see but is a great invisible strength. Hatha Yoga Guru Nanda Siriwardene says that the most important of all is the power of concentration. If this is strong then we will not give up – our determination will be strong too. We cannot see our spiritual body but it give us invisible strength and when we get this invisible strength our brain gets activated to its highest state.

Hatha Yoga for all

When one passes one’s youth, one needs to take care of his or her organs. Violent exercises tax the heart and ought to be avoided. Violent exercises, haphazard do it yourself jogging and exercise and the strain it can have on one’s knees, spine and body as a whole can have a devastation effect in the future. There is a misconception that Yoga is for a certain category of people only. This has arisen due to some advanced postures that we commonly see. On the contrary, Yoga is for all. Like with everything else in life, in Hatha Yoga too, we start at the beginning where one is guided through the first postures. Yoga is not for a people of a certain age, it is for both men and women – for the young and for the old. In fact there is no age barrier for Yoga. Hatha Yoga is becoming more and more popular about women today because it helps to fight fat. Unlike aerobics which is solely restricted to the physical body, Hatha Yoga fine tunes both the mind and the body. It is not that Guru Nanda Siriwardene is against aerobics. On the contrary he has his own routine of aerobics – power aerobics formulated to attack fat and has been proven to be a 100 per cent effective way out of the fat menace. Guru Nanda Siriwardene’s advise for al women is to practice Hatha Yoga or good exercise under proper guidance every day. ‘Otherwise there will be problems very soon. People have a notion that yoga is difficult. Anyone could think anything they want, but equipment which also includes sandbag and cotton props, ropes wooden blocks, special benches, bolsters and other special equipment would give a fuller life to all. It would help one to achieve beauty by way of a healthy system sans fat and sans disease,” says Guru Nanda Siriwardene. Hatha Yoga is ideal for those ageing and the old, for it is both for the mind and the body. We see many senor citizens in temples. They are in search of purity of mind. Meditation  is common among the ageing. Hatha yoga gives strength of mind and mental clarity till the last stages of life, says guru Nanda Siriwardene. “But this does not mean  that Yoga is only for senior citizens. In fact the younger one begins, immense are the rewards. If one begins Yoga at a younger age it slows down the process of decay. I am ageing, but my does  not show it, my body, just like anyone else’s is deteriorating but the process is very, very slow,” says this confident guru of Hatha Yoga who has chosen a way of life – a way of life in which he shows us all the path to good health and good living – without worry, disease, ill health and the debilitating effects of ageing. Today however there are many kinds of Yoga shops everywhere. This is why one must be careful when choosing. Yoga ought to be practiced under guidance of a qualified guru. Source- www.nandasri-hathayoga.com - The official website of Nanda Sri Hatha Yoga Institute

Positive Thinking Your Key to Success

By Remez Sasson
Positive thinking brings inner peace, success, improved relationships, better health, happiness and satisfaction. It also helps the daily affairs of life move more smoothly, and makes life look bright and promising.
Positive thinking is contagious. People around you pick your mental moods and are affected accordingly. Think about happiness, good health and success, and you will cause people to like you and desire to help you, because they enjoy the vibrations that a positive mind emits.
In order to make positive thinking yield results, you need to develop a positive attitude toward life, expect a successful outcome of whatever you do, but also take any necessary actions to ensure your success.
Effective positive thinking that brings results is much more than just repeating a few positive words, or telling yourself that everything is going to be all right. It has to be your predominant mental attitude. It is not enough to think positively for a few moments, and then letting fears and lack of belief enter your mind. Some effort and inner work are necessary.
Are you willing to make a real inner change?
Are you willing to change the way you think?
Are you willing to develop a mental power that can positively affect you, your environment and the people around you?
Here are a few actions and tips to help you develop the power of positive thinking:

• Always use only positive words while thinking and while talking. Use words such as, 'I can', 'I am able', 'it is possible', 'it can be done', etc.
• Allow into your awareness only feelings of happiness, strength and success.
• Try to disregard and ignore negative thoughts. Refuse to think such thoughts, and substitute them with constructive happy thoughts.
• In your conversation use words that evoke feelings and mental images of strength, happiness and success.
• Before starting with any plan or action, visualize clearly in your mind its successful outcome. If you visualize with concentration and faith, you will be amazed at the results.
• Read at least one page of inspiring book every day.
• Watch movies that make you feel happy.
• Minimize the time you listen to the news and read the papers.
• Associate yourself with people who think positively.
• Always sit and walk with your back straight. This will strengthen your confidence and inner strength.
• Walk, swim or engage in some other physical activity. This helps to develop a more positive attitude.

Think positive and expect only favorable results and situations, even if your current circumstances are not as you wish them to be. In time, your mental attitude will affect your life and circumstances and change them accordingly.
Follow the tips and suggestions in this article, and prove to yourself the reality the power of positive thinking. More advanced and powerful techniques, instructions and exercises can be found in the following books:
Visualize and Achieve
Affirmations Words with Power
When you expect success and say "I can", you fill yourself with confidence and joy.

Fill your mind with light, hope and feelings of strength, and soon your life will reflect these qualities.

Mind Power and Success

The mind plays an important role in achieving every kind of success and goal, minor, everyday goals or major goals.With minor or day-to-day goals, one usually knows what he or she wants to do or get, but when it comes to major goals, most people don't know what they really desire. They desire to do something big, but they don't know what. They might have a vague idea, but this is not enough.
To accomplish anything, and to use your mind power, you have to know exactly what it is you want to do. To focus your mind power on a goal, you need to have a clear and well defined goal. How do you go about that?
You have first to think or meditate, to find out what is it that you want to accomplish or gain. This might not be a simple step, and requires deep thinking, investigation and time.
After discovering what you really want to accomplish, you need to come up with a plan for action. You need to know what you have to do first and how to proceed. All of this requires planning, which means using the power of the mind.
After deciding on a goal and coming up with a plan, you need to hold in your mind a clear mental image of your goal. You need to see it accomplished. This step requires that you use your imagination, which is another power of the mind. Not everyone can visualize clear mental images, but regular training of the imagination can do wonders. You may, for example, look at photos of what you want to achieve, and then close your eyes, and try to see it in your imagination. This will enhance your ability to visualize.
At this point, you have to display patience, self-discipline and the power to persist in your efforts. This requires a one pointed mind.
Affirmations are another useful mental tool for achieving success. What you affirm sinks into the subconscious mind, becomes part of the subconscious mind, and consequently affects your behavior and actions. If your affirmations are positive, they lead you to success.
Another important power of the mind is thought transference. You need to be able to transmit your thoughts to other people, who would aid you with your plans. Often, you have to persuade others to invest in your plans or to help you in other ways. It is not enough just to talk with them, you need to believe in what you are saying; you need to be enthusiastic and persuasive, otherwise they won't listen and won't care. You need to be able to reject your and their doubts. To be able to do so, you need concentration, control over your thoughts, willpower, self-discipline and patience. All these are mental tools and skills.
Motivation is another mental and emotional power that you require for achieving success. How can you achieve anything if you are not motivated enough? To increase your motivation and enthusiasm, think often of your goal, about its advantages and benefits, and how it will change your life. Doing so, will strengthen your motivation.Your thoughts, which are part of your mind, possess power. The thoughts that you most often think tend to come true. If you pour your mental energy into the same thoughts or mental images day after day, they will become stronger and stronger, and would consequently affect your attitude, expectations, behavior and actions. These thoughts and mental images can even be subconsciously perceived by other people, who would then offer you help or opportunities. Your thoughts can also create what is usually termed as coincidence. They can attract into your life corresponding events, situations and opportunities.
By Remez Sasson